Thinking of Getting a Dog for Your Toddler? Here’s What You Need to Know

Are you considering getting a dog for your toddler? Perhaps your little one loves playing with the neighbor’s dog and has been asking for one of their own. Bringing a dog into the family is a big decision, and there are many factors to consider to ensure a happy, safe environment for both your child and the new pet.

In our recent Discerning Parenting Podcast episode, we sat down with Jane Rosenblum, a psychiatric nurse and dog trainer with over 25 years of experience. Jane has a unique perspective on integrating dogs into families, especially with young children. She shared invaluable insights on the right time to get a dog for your child, how to choose the right dog, and what parents need to know to create a harmonious home.

Is Your Toddler Ready for a Dog?

One of the most common questions parents ask is, “How do we know if our child is ready for a dog?” Jane emphasizes that there’s no exact age to determine readiness; it’s more about the child’s maturity and behavior. Here are a few guidelines:

Self-Control

Consider how well your child can control their impulses. Young children, especially toddlers, are naturally impulsive and may not yet have the self-control needed to interact safely with a dog.

Behavior Around Animals

Observe your child’s behavior around animals. Are they calm and gentle, or do they tend to roughhouse and treat animals like toys?

Responsibility

Can your child follow through with responsibilities? While they can help with dog care, the primary responsibility will still fall on the parents, especially with younger children.

Jane points out that toddlers and very young children might find it overwhelming to handle a puppy, who can be just as active and impulsive. It’s important to wait until children can interact calmly and gently with a pet.

Choosing the Right Dog for Your Family

Choosing a dog is a decision that should involve careful consideration. Here are Jane’s tips for finding the right fit:

Temperament Over Breed

While some breeds are known for being family-friendly, the individual dog’s temperament is more important. Look for a calm, confident dog that is comfortable around children.

Age and Experience

If considering a rescue or shelter dog, aim for one that is at least two to three years old. Puppies require intensive care and training, which might be too much for a busy family. An adult dog’s temperament is more predictable, making it easier to find a good match.

Lifestyle Match

Choose a dog that fits your family’s activity level. Active families might enjoy an energetic breed, while quieter families might prefer a more laid-back dog.

Avoid Surprises

Don’t promise your child they can pick out any dog they want. Parents should select a suitable dog and then introduce it to the children, ensuring it meets the family’s needs and lifestyle.

Preparing Your Home and Family

Once you’ve decided to get a dog, preparing your home and family is crucial. Here are some steps to ensure a smooth transition:

Set Boundaries

Establish rules for interactions between your child and the dog. Teach your child to avoid hugging or kissing the dog, as dogs don’t understand these gestures and may feel trapped.

Supervision

Always supervise interactions between young children and the dog, especially in the early months. Use baby gates or playpens to create safe spaces where the dog and child can be separated when unsupervised.

Gradual Involvement

Involve your child in dog care gradually. Young children can help with brushing or simple tasks under supervision. Avoid letting young children handle feeding, as dogs can become possessive of their food.

Managing Expectations and Responsibilities

It’s essential to manage both your own and your child’s expectations. Children often promise to take care of the dog but may lose interest after a few weeks. Here’s how to keep things on track:

Regular Discussions

Talk about the responsibilities involved in dog care and create a routine that includes everyone in the family.

Avoid Threats

Never threaten to get rid of the dog if the child doesn’t fulfill their responsibilities. This can be traumatic for both the child and the dog. Instead, address the reasons behind the child’s reluctance and work on solutions together.

Special Considerations for Families in Apartments

Living in a small space can be challenging for both the dog and the family. Here are some solutions:

Exercise Needs

Ensure the dog gets regular exercise, which might mean frequent walks or visits to nearby dog parks. Hiring a dog walker can be a good option if your schedule is tight.

Indoor Play

Create opportunities for indoor play and mental stimulation with toys and games that keep the dog active.

Final Thoughts

Getting a dog is a significant commitment and should be a well-thought-out decision. It’s about more than just finding a cute pet; it’s about ensuring a good match for your family and providing a safe, loving environment for your new furry friend. By considering your child’s readiness, choosing the right dog, and preparing your home, you can set the stage for a joyful and rewarding relationship between your child and their new best friend.

About our Guest

Jane Rosenblum began her career as a registered nurse, specializing in psychiatric care and advocating for at-risk children within families. Recognizing a need for guidance on dog-child interactions, she transitioned to become a certified dog trainer in 2003. With a Bachelor of Science from San Francisco State University and a Certificate in Training & Counseling from the San Francisco SPCA Academy for Dog Trainers, she now supports families with young children and dogs. Leveraging her background in nursing, she provides expert advice and practical solutions for ensuring safe and harmonious relationships between pets and children.